It's Not Knowing What We Want That's Important, It's Knowing What We Don't.

Sometimes it's not so much about knowing what we want, its knowing what we don't want. We have to be able to identify the toxic things in our lives and stay away from them. If something or someone disturbs your peace then perhaps they shouldn't be around you. I think we stay around things or people we love even when they are harmful to our existence. We call it putting in the work or the ups and downs of life. But in my humble opinion love is not meant to be complicated. It's simple really. We either love and respect each other or we don't, they are not mutually exclusive.

If the people we are around genuinely love us then its hard to see how they would be toxic. Genuine love doesn't hurt or cause a disturbance of the peace. It should cause something to grow and flourish. I mean think about it we are commanded to love one another in the bible. The verse is very specific, there are no guesses. That means then that love should be a good thing. Where genuine love exists, only goodness should follow, if not you need to flea : ).

Our definitions of love are different and love looks different to different people. We all have different expectations of love and when we don't see it expressed how we expect it then that is when we should examine ourselves to see what we have allowed in our lives. Anything that causes us pain, self doubt, panic, anger and just doesn't bring us happiness should not be allowed into our lives. We should value ourselves in such a way that we know immediately the things we don't want and we avoid them at all costs.

The enemy comes to kill, steal and destroy and he comes in many forms. So friends what is stealing your peace, joy, patience, kindness, goodness, self-control and anything else that is good within us? What is destroying the things you value, slowly corrupting you and killing the essence of you?

The way to know if the love you share with others is genuine is through this lens. Once you see that its not bringing the things above to you then maybe you need out of that love. We all know the things we don't want and this year being the year of progress (pun intended) then we need to let these things go. No matter how hard it is, it will bring the best outcome. Let us be loosed off these chains that are binding us. Let us be free to be happy in this year, to be genuinely and carefree happy.

When was the last time you were carefree? When you experienced happiness like a child as a result of the love you share with the people in your life? If that question is difficult to answer then you need to unshackle yourself, untangle yourself from those things or people. There are too many people in the world for you to be around anyone that you can't trust with your heart. Anything that causes you to not love without reserve should not be in your life.

We know what don't want. Now it's time to clean the clutter.

Listening is loving...

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