The Cart Before The Horse

Lets get personal shall we? And good morning to you!!! I hope you are well. Truly I do. If not send me a note and we can talk, pray, complain...whatever about it.

Now on to serious business : ), I have been thinking about why people like to place the cart before the horse. Why do we like to do things in reverse? To have our cake and eat it too? The reason this thought process came up was because I happened to read an excellent post about the proverbs 31 woman and while it inspired me, it also left me wanting. Why? Because I am not a wife. The qualities of the proverbs 31 woman are endearing but the context in which they are written does not apply to me. Cue in a sigh of relief because I don't have to be that perfect woman for now at least.

Horses 2nd image by goingslo http://www.imcreator.com/free/nature/animals/horses-2

Forgiveness

Forgiveness. That's a big word isn't it? How does it look like to you? I wrestle with this word and the act of forgiving itself as my small group would say is a 'ninja power'. I think of forgiveness as essentially saying, okay buddy you are off the hook. What you did hurt me and its not okay but we are good. It can be summed up as 'you will not be held accountable anymore and I am letting you get away with it.' That makes me feel like I'm letting them take advantage of me and its not a good feeling.

where night meets day by gagilas https://www.flickr.com/photos/gagilas/6479424255/sizes/l/

Holding a grudge is so much easier isn't it. That way I can feel entitled in my pain because I have been hurt. The flip side is that holding a  grudge can be consuming. It consumes all the goodness in us. We find ourselves out of sorts because we are not at peace. We find ourselves consumed with thoughts of revenge that really do not bring any good outcome. The point is, a grudge never did anyone any good.

Sibling Rivalry 101

Good morning everyone? How are you this fine Monday morning : ). Blurgh the thought of going through another week sucks but on the bright side, we are alive! Hopefully we are all healthy and best of all we have an opportunity to do better and be better.

I started the year reading the book of Genesis and coincidentally its the plan on my daily devotional as well as the current series at church. God is not a God of coincidences so its interesting to see the different interpretations of scripture.

Anyways the story of Cain and Abel has always been a thorn in my flesh so to speak. I have always felt that God was unfair to Cain. Why didn't he accept his offering? Why did he favor Abel? Did he create strife for an opportunity to have a lesson and then it all went downhill? Why? They were siblings and so it looks like sibling rivalry to me at its worst. I'm sure we all know families that are broken because of sibling rivalry. People who have no regard for each other even when they have a bond as strong as blood.

Cape San, Sebastian by goingslo

It's Not Knowing What We Want That's Important, It's Knowing What We Don't.

Sometimes it's not so much about knowing what we want, its knowing what we don't want. We have to be able to identify the toxic things in our lives and stay away from them. If something or someone disturbs your peace then perhaps they shouldn't be around you. I think we stay around things or people we love even when they are harmful to our existence. We call it putting in the work or the ups and downs of life. But in my humble opinion love is not meant to be complicated. It's simple really. We either love and respect each other or we don't, they are not mutually exclusive.


The Glass Is Half Full

Sunday I was watching one of my all time favorite shows 'The Good Wife' and they brought up something interesting. The theory that no matter what choices you make, no matter which path you choose you will always end up where you are. You can't avoid or maneuver around fate. So if you are happy/unhappy, content/discontent, whatever state you are in, you are where you are meant to be.

You Define Who You Are & What You Are Worth

People are always quoting things about knowing your worth and staying true to yourself. Isn't that one of the hardest things to do? Who determines worth? An Iphone's worth is determined by how much a user is willing to pay for it. Regardless of how much the phone can or cant do, its worthiness is derived from its user. So in the same way, its easy to see how a person could see their worth as derived from the people they cherish the most.

Hong Kong Sonnenuntergang by Norman Schultz

Relationship Goals

Happy new year everybody! In my quest to start off the new year on a high note I wanted to start with a topic that has been on the forefront of my mind for some time now. Relationships and relationship goals. I can see that eye roll and the loud groans where you are thinking 'another relationship post' but please bear with me.


Free by anieto2k https://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8647038461/sizes/l/