Make Peace With Your Past

Going down memory lane can be bitter sweet. You may find yourself filled with regret for things you didn't do, places you didn't go and the people you left behind. You may also find yourself wishing you had done some things different because in hindsight your life may have turned out differently. The thing is you just don't know that for sure. It is all based on some ideas you have of what your life should look like.

I often wonder what fate really is. Do we determine our destinies or does life throw us curve balls that determine where in life we end up. Think about the people you went to college with. We all didn't end up the same. Some ended up making it big time, others found themselves in careers they hated and some found themselves unable to take off. Such is life isn't it?

Is there really any usefulness in looking at life based on the past? Does it help or does it impede us from moving forward? If you are constantly looking at life through the rewind button you can't really appreciate the present. Have you seen people ruin their marriages because of an old flame only to realize it really wasn't that good. Or people quitting their jobs to pursue their 'dreams' when it really doesn't make sense?

Don't get me wrong. You have to appreciate where you come from but that's just it, you can't go back. So quit holding a vigil over the life you could have had or regretting things that you can't change. It doesn't help you with anything. Those 'I wish I could have, should have, would have done moments' should be deleted from your vocabulary because they are counter productive. If you want to do something badly enough it doesn't matter where in your life you are you CAN do it!

Growing up is obviously a learning process and there are things you will always wish you could have done different but for most people the sentiment is that they wouldn't have had it any other way. Experiences good and bad build character and you find yourself at a point in your life where you are a strong person who has been through the grinder and come out the other side all refined and shining. You have a good head on your shoulders and you probably would not have turned out that way were it not for some of the decisions you  made good and bad.

There are things you would probably scold the younger version of yourself for because they made the journey to your present self a bit more difficult but the people you met along the way, the things you achieved and the person you are make it all worth it. So cut yourself some slack and enjoy the life you have now. Cherish the people that love you and keep it moving. STOP living in the past.

Listening is loving....

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